To Tell or Not To Tell (Sex Work In Society Pt. 2)

…continued from Part 1: Social Stigma


I am not ashamed of what I do for a living.

I think that webcam models are brave entrepreneurs who landed on an awesome opportunity and took advantage of it. Unfortunately, the awesome is tainted by the social stigma, and every webcam model must decide how to approach this issue.


The basic options are:

A. Don’t give a shit.
B. Play it safe.


A. Don’t give a shit.


This is dangerous and it can result in adverse effects on both quality of life and personal relationships. Of course it could also be very freeing and empowering, depending on your outlook and personality.


I personally aspire to not give a shit. I am shy by nature, but I value quality relationships and I want to live a full and honest life. Sometimes living the “double life” of a camgirl makes that a little tricky.


Ultimately, I think that I don’t want to be close with people who are so close-minded that they would judge me based on my choice of job. If I was a customer service rep my job would not define me at all. Why is a job in the sex industry any different?

It’s what I do for a living, not who I am, and I shouldn’t have to hide it.



B. Play it safe.


There’s no shame in accepting that most of society is not ready for your progressive mindset.



You can probably tell who would not be open to your job in adult modeling – anyone with a religious upbringing and anyone who judges, for example, homosexuality as wrong isn’t likely prepared to accept someone who doesn’t fall into their definition of normal. 


I choose not to tell my parents what I do because I know with certainty that they would be devastated based on their religious beliefs. It’s only natural that I love my parents and I want to protect them.


If you choose to moonlight as a webcam model on the side of a current job, you probably won’t need to worry about this. But if you decide to replace your job, you’ll need to also decide, well – to tell or not to tell. That is the question, after all.


We’ll hear some answers to this question from webcam models in the concluding installment of Sex Work in Society. I asked how they answer the casual question, “What do you do for a living?”

Keep reading:

Part 3 
What Do You Do?

Would you pick approach A or B? Why?
I would love to hear your thoughts!
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